I know it happens to lots of women, no matter ones age. 

I don’t give a shit what anyone says.  Just try to deny it.  The ones that say that they haven’t experienced some form of it are lying. The term “mid life crisis” is the catchall phrase for all that bothers you.  First stage is to blame others, like your husband, for the lack of joy you are experiencing, for your sudden and unrelenting boredom with everything you are doing and for not achieving what you thought were your life goals.  The second step is to blame your age, your genetics, your saggy boobs, your birth order, your muffin top or your periods for holding you back.  Then, with a little therapy, soul searching, self help books, drugs, alcohol or whatever self-medication you choose, you finally realize that it all comes back to YOU.  Damn, that's harsh!

According to an article in the New York Times, the midlife crisis is global and that ” happiness levels followed a U-shaped curve, with happiness higher towards the start and end of our lives. Across cultures, they found, depression and unhappiness typically strike people in midlife.”

For men, the typical midlife crises solutions are more cliché like maybe dumping the wife, upping the horse power, dating younger women, etc.  What is the equivalent for women?  They usually don’t go in for the quick fix.  Okay, well maybe its new boobs, a tummy tuck, a facelift. But it is usually not resolved easily or cosmetically.  Instead we reach deep and start reinventing ourselves more intensely.  For most of the women I know it comes in waves.  Our dinner dates often become group therapy, a shared expression of all that ails us.  Misery loves company, and those evenings are very nourishing for the soul.   I say that no matter what, its best to try and push the envelope,
build new interests; don’t use age as an excuse not to try a new career or hobby.  Most importantly, it’s imperative to talk out loud about it.  It is so comforting to know you aren’t the only one and to hear how other women are dealing with it.  For me, I will stick with the girlfriends and martini’s…its way cheaper than conventional therapy, it’s not as stressful as an affair or divorce and it gets you through the end of that U shaped curve and into the happier times.